I mean I literally don’t believe in “virginity”.
It’s a social concept. And for me personally, it’s silly. It pressures girls into feeling like they’re losing a piece of purity or innocence and pressures boys into feeling as if they aren’t manly enough until they’ve stuck their penis in a girl. Girls are made to feel bad for “losing” this made up thing, while boys are glorified for “taking” a girl’s innocence or put down for still being a virgin at an older age. There is nothing to take or give away. Sex is a natural and beautiful human thing. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Are you aware there is no such thing as “popping the cherry”..?
It’s literally a myth. The term “cherry" is misleading. There is nothing there to "pop." When a baby girl is forming inside the womb, the vagina usually doesn’t open up all the way, leaving a thin piece of skin with a hole in it, around the entrance to the girl’s vagina. This piece of skin is called the hymen, and is what people mean by “cherry.” It doesn’t need “popped”, it needs to be stretched or opened gently.
"Popping a cherry" is really actually the forceful tearing of this skin by the insertion of a large object for the first time (like a penis during sex).
But in quite a lot of cases this forceful tearing of the hymen is actually unnecessary and can be avoided with proper amount of foreplay, lubrication, and gentleness.
Not to mention the fact that the hymen may already be stretched by then from the use of tampons, self masturbation, or even just simple exercise and running or playing sports. So if a girl doesn’t bleed or experience pain during her first time she may be confused or think she did it wrong. “Popping the cherry” is kind of just an excuse for boys to not have to use foreplay or go slow with a girl when it’s her first time, cuz we’re taught that “it’s meant to hurt the first time.” When the truth of the matter is it doesn’t really have to. That’s not to say your first time won’t be a bit uncomfortable, or that feeling a little pressure or a twinge of pain isn’t normal the very first time… just that the whole “popping the cherry” thing is not true and in actuality is a harmful myth. I wish I had known that “cherry popping” wasn’t a legitimate thing. It would have saved me a hell of a lot of pain my first time.
do you ever wish you could just stop time for like a couple weeks so you could just sleep and do whatever you want and just get your shit together and then after that time would just start back up again and you wouldn’t have missed anything because you would just pick up where you left off